Should You Trust Your Gut Feeling About Cheating?

by Daphne GarrettMay 1, 2021

When there is a chance your partner might be cheating, there’s that gut feeling that sits there. But should you trust that gut feeling about cheating?

After all, it could be wrong and might blow up in your face.

You’ll learn here if that gut feeling is smart to trust or if it’s best to put it to bed.

It depends on how founded they are.

The simple answer is – it’s based on how founded they are.

If you think they are, but there’s absolutely no evidence, and it’s just you overreacting, you need to stop and realize such.

Some people experience this paranoia if they are with someone they feel they don’t deserve. When this happens, they suspect every little thing as cheating.

Not everyone is cheating, and it’s not healthy for you to think this way.

If there’s no reason to think they’re cheating, then don’t do so. It’s hurtful and oftentimes is a sign of self-confidence issues.

What do the professionals think?

There are professionals that can validate this claim.

However, many times, some people don’t have a strong case, and it can create a disaster.

These feelings are oftentimes reliable, so trust your gut feeling about cheating.

But those subconscious fears also get mixed in too. So, for example, if you’re afraid of being cheated on because you were hurt in the past, that’s going to dampen your ability to understand whether or not they’re cheating now.

If there is a reason to believe they’re cheating, then yes, you may want to trust your gut.

Your intuition is like a guardian angel.

Your intuition, or gut feeling, is sometimes right simply because of how abstract it is.

Intuition is an invisible system of “deception detection.” Intuition does not depend on logic and reason but instead – the subconscious feelings of energy and information that you begin to look into.

Your intuition acts on its own in a way. It doesn’t require anything but information and the energies that are there.

So if you suspect there is cheating, you have information, and have felt something was amiss, then lo and behold, you may be right.

How does intuition work?

Intuition works in a very specific way.

So you have your conscious mind, which is limited in how much information it can process at a given moment.

However, the subconscious draws from all information that is available.

This is the information you don’t typically pick up.

These may include:

  • Body language.
  • Voice tone.
  • Behavioral patterns.
  • The energy someone has.

Your conscious mind will typically convince you with logic that everything’s hunky-dory. Your intuition may step in to combat this and you should learn to recognize this too.

Those moments of unease, those “hunches” that you have, that’s a sign that your intuition is trying to speak.

These may not last a long time either. Typically they’re fleeting periods of time, where you have certain feelings that eat away at you.

That hunch can sometimes cause you to start to suspecting problems, and then, it happens.

Why is that?

Why our gut feeling is almost always right.

Your gut feeling is right many times because it can see through the deception that your logical mind convinced you was real.

Whether they’re good or bad liars, usually cheaters are affected by deception to a degree.

They use it.

Some ways cheaters use deception include:

  • Overcorrection by giving spontaneous gifts
  • Offering to do housework or other special things suddenly
  • Completely withdraw from others
  • Sometimes be a little less affectionate than others

This of course puts out its own specific type of energy.

You might not pick up on the energy, but guess who does?

Your intuition of course!

The more aware and sensitive you are, the more reliable it becomes.  This, of course, can help you with seeing through the smoke and mirrors.

Intuition thrives on energies and deceptions. If it knows something is amiss, it will immediately change gears and try to tell you that you should do this or that.

It’s pretty cool how easily this works. It offers you the truth when in your mind you want to believe that your spouse is better than that.

It’s Not Perfect

Remember, your intuition and gut feelings are not perfect. So you shouldn’t accuse based simply on trusting your gut feeling and thinking that cheating is occurring.

That’s because many who believe in their gut feeling don’t know the difference between suspicion and intuition.

Suspicion involves the following:

  • Conclusions based on specific clues
  • Circumstantial evidence that’s there that will help create a solid case

Intuition involves:

  • No evidence whatsoever
  • A purely abstract gut feeling
  • Oftentimes a very early warning sign compared to the evidence that’s presented

With intuition, there is oftentimes no factual evidence, it’s just how you feel based on the gut feelings at hand.

In that case, you should always be mindful of this, since. If you believe in just the gut feeling and nothing more – you might get burnt.

In contrast, if there is circumstantial evidence and a gut feeling, you should definitely take time and look deeper into this if you suspect cheating.

Your intuition tells you something, but it is best if you listen and pay attention to other signs outside of just what your gut is telling you.

What You Can Do

If there is a chance of cheating, it’s important to take the steps necessary for you to double-check to see if cheating is a thing.

For starters, make a pros and cons list.

The reason why is because the following:

  • It can help you figure out the good and bad of staying with the person.
  • It can help you figure out if the cheating is real or not.
  • It helps you determine if you two can move forward from this.

Sometimes, your intuition is a growing suspicion. Still, the problem with growing suspicions is it may consume you.

Getting a list of the pros and cons will help you externalize this and give you a better perspective.

Another thing you can do is look for the red flags that are there. 

Red flags include the following:

  • Lies you discover
  • Anything hidden
  • Promises not being kept
  • Different behaviors

If you have seen similar red flags in failed relationships, you can look at that and compare it to what’s going on now.

If there aren’t any red flags that you’ve seen, chances are your gut feeling might be overreacting, and it’s better if you watch for more red flags such as these.

Red flags do occur, so it’s important to watch for them, especially if you feel like there is something amiss here, but you’re not sure if you’re overreacting or not.

Conclusion

The problem with intuition is that it can suck you in, making you feel like you’re making a mistake.

However, your gut feeling might be onto something.

Remember that it’s right in most cases, so if you’re unsure whether or not your feelings are valid, look for other signs of cheating there, and then you can fully trust your gut feeling in regards to cheating.

Your gut feeling can make you feel like you’re fighting a war.

If you think something is going on, the best thing to do is figure out the right time to confront your partner. They may try to avoid the subject so getting them to sit down with you might be a challenge.

Your gut feeling is not something to fully trust, but it can be an excellent guide. If the nagging feeling doesn’t go away, chances are it’s your feelings trying to say something, be it cheating, be it something else.

It’s a good place to start, but shouldn’t be the only thing you use to base assumptions off of. If there is actual evidence, that’s when you should do something about it. Otherwise, keep the baseless accusations at bay.

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