Should You Forgive Your Cheating Wife?

by Maria MagleoDecember 16, 2021

Deciding whether you should forgive your cheating wife or not can be one of the hardest decisions you have to make.

Infidelity has always been a tough subject and so is forgiveness. At first, you won’t even want to use these two words in one sentence because it sounds emotionally exhausting.

You trusted her, you loved her, you were loyal and committed to her – and all of these things went to waste when she decided to break your trust and betray you.

The thing is, no matter what she did, she’s still your wife (and perhaps the mother of your kids), so leaving your marriage is not easy.

And so, you’re at a crossroads – swallow your pride and forgive her, running the risk of it happening again. Or not forgiving her at all and going your own way.

It’s a hard decision to make. And, no matter what people tell you, at the end of the day, the hard choice still lies in your hands. It’s up to you.

But, here’s the thing – when you decide, you shouldn’t just focus on your emotions, but you should also use your head and consider the facts.

It can be quite confusing so let me help you answer this tough question – should you forgive your wife? Or not?

It Depends

Forgiveness always depends on a lot of factors. You cannot just simply forgive because you love her or you’ve been married for a long time.

These details can, of course, play an important role in your decision-making because if you don’t love her anymore, then there’s no point in staying and trying to make things work, right?

Also, if you’ve been together for years, then you probably have this “I know her” mindset. However, maybe she changed, or maybe something just forced her to do it.

The point is, when you think about forgiving someone who didn’t just do you wrong but also betrayed you, you cannot just focus on the tip of the iceberg. You must go deeper.

Because, if you think about it, forgiveness is just the beginning of this new journey. You might as well make sure that you’re on the right path.

When You SHOULD NOT Forgive Her

People cheat because they have their reasons and women usually do it because of dissatisfaction or unhappiness and emotional disconnection with their husbands.

If your wife cheated on you because of these feelings, then it’s a good enough reason not to forgive her. Why? Because she could have done something that doesn’t involve infidelity.

Yes, maybe she did try to fix things between the two of you and failed, but don’t you think it’s better to just be honest and leave than stay, break your trust, and ruin your family?

And, here’s a sad truth – if she’s unhappy with you and is no longer feeling the spark and connection you once had, how could you be so sure that she won’t do it again?

And if you don’t believe it and still need more reasons to be convinced, you can check this article out.

You see, it’s hard to trust again, and if you feel that doing it seems impossible, then forgiveness is already off the table.

The thing about betrayal is they won’t admit that they screwed up unless you’re the one who discovered it. That alone is enough reason not to forgive your cheating wife.

When You SHOULD Forgive Her

I believe an affair is never justified, however people make mistakes and they can also regret these mistakes.

This should be simple by now. If your wife told you about the affair without you having to catch her, then maybe you can forgive her.

If she’s truly remorseful, admitted that everything was her fault, and you could see that she’s doing everything to fix what she has done, maybe you could give her another chance.

But don’t jump the gun.

Don’t forgive her right away just because she’s doing those things. Give it some time and see how much she’s willing to do to fix what she has broken.

If you notice that she genuinely seems regretful, then you may start repairing the damage.

I recommend going to therapy while mending the damages, as it may be able to set you two in the right direction and can make things more productive.

You can read more about it here.

So, Should You Forgive Her?

Just like what I said, it’s entirely up to you. However, when making this kind of decision, you must always look at it from all angles. Don’t just focus on emotions, but look at the facts too.

Remember, infidelity is not just a simple rough patch in your marriage. The trust and respect have been shattered and these cannot be easily mended. 

Even if you decide to forgive her, bear in mind that it’s going to be a full-time job trying to put back the shattered pieces. Can you do it? 

And are you willing to take the risk of having to go through it again if she ever decides to cheat on you again?

At the end of the day, it’s your choice. It’s going to affect the rest of your life, so choose wisely.

Conclusion

Being cheated on is extremely painful because the betrayal comes from the person you trusted and loved the most.

Maybe there is still room for another chance and forgiveness, but not all people deserve to have it. 

Therefore, if you are thinking about forgiving your cheating wife, think about it carefully.

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