You offered your loyalty and commitment, yet, your wife still cheated. Is it, perhaps, the time to divorce your cheating wife?
As you know, marriages are complicated and aren’t always smooth.
They can be unpredictable, and sometimes you think you’re on the right path, only to realize that you’re already at the edge of a cliff.
According to statistics, infidelity is one of the most common reasons behind divorce, with 54.5% of married couples breaking up right away, while 30% tried to mend things but still ended up divorcing later.
But knowing this information and your current situation, may not completely sell you on that idea just yet.
So don’t take my word for it, here are 5 more reasons you should divorce your unfaithful wife.
1. Fights Have Become Way Too Common
It’s normal for married couples to have disagreements and fights, but it’s only healthy if the arguments end up making the bond stronger and helping each other grow.
But if infidelity is already on the table, that means that the fights are likely getting worse and more frequent. The fights at this point are meant to attack and put each other down.
It’s easy to say that you’re willing to forgive and forget, but sooner or later you’ll realize that your anger and resentment are unconsciously showing during your fights.
If this is what’s happening, is staying the best thing to do? And if you have children, do you think it’ll do them good to have parents constantly at each other’s throats?
Even if you do not have children, the fights will soon take a toll on you and when that day comes, you’ll certainly regret not walking away sooner.
Better to leave now than wait for that day, right?
2. The Relationship Has Simply Become Unhappy
Constant unhealthy fights and an unfaithful wife do not equate to a happy marriage, and that is something you need to remember.
It’s a hard pill to swallow, but you’ll only be able to move forward once you learn to accept this fact.
The saying “fake it till you make it” won’t apply in this situation because no matter how hard you try to tell and show others that your marriage is fine, deep inside you’re still miserable.
The earlier you accept that your marriage is no longer making you feel fulfilled, the closer you are to healing and finding happiness again.
3. She’ll Likely Do It Again
Feelings of unhappiness in a marriage are just the beginning of a series of unhealthy fights, irresponsible decisions, and heartbreaks after heartbreaks.
You see, unhappiness is perhaps the very reason why she cheated on you in the first place, and if this is truly the case, how would you stop her from cheating again?
For her, there was something wrong or something missing in your marriage, that is why she went out to look for it in someone else.
Maybe it’s easy to say that you’ll go to therapy, find what is missing, give her what she wants, and then she’s going to be happy again. End of story.
But, no. Happiness is not always as easy as it sounds. If it was that easy, she wouldn’t have cheated. If being happy again is that easy, no one would feel miserable and depressed.
And even if you’re able to work things out, the moment she feels unhappy again, she would just end up doing what she initially did the first time – cheat.
And if you know that’s the case, then divorce shouldn’t be very far off.
4. Low Commitment
Commitment issues can manifest in many ways but the most common and serious are the signs of low commitment is infidelity.
So, yes, maybe your marriage was going through a rough patch, but is cheating the best solution to your problems? Of course, not.
Resorting to cheating when someone is going through a hard time says a lot about that person.
Because, if you’re fully committed, you’ll do everything in your power to fix the problem in the best way possible – without lies and deceit.
Sadly, your wife decided to cheat, which means that she was not fully committed to you and your marriage.
Maybe she does love you, but she was not committed enough to stick by you. And if she scores low on commitment, then cheating will likely happen again.
The infamous “it’s not you, it’s me” breakup line may sound like a lame excuse but sometimes, there is some truth to it.
It doesn’t always mean that it’s your fault – that you’re not handsome, successful, or supportive enough.
At times, even if you give your best shot, your best just wasn’t what the other person was looking for. In this kind of situation, it only means that you’re incompatible.
And the way you and your wife compromise with these incompatibilities can determine the course of your marriage.
Even if you try to be the man she wanted, physically and emotionally, if she is not satisfied and willing to compromise, she would just end up cheating again.
Essentially, the relationship would go down the divorce route sooner or later.
When infidelity enters a marriage, it’s difficult to decide on which path is better – stay and struggle to survive or to leave and make room for healing.
Although a lot of marriages do survive infidelity, staying is not always the best choice for everybody.
This is even more so if a lot of negative emotions and situations are constantly invading your marriage. If this is the case, divorce might be the best thing to do.
If you don’t know where to start, I recommend starting by finding a divorce lawyer in your area. You can easily do that by searching them in your area using this directory.