Can You Trust A Wife That Cheated In The Past?

by Maria MagleoJanuary 12, 2022

Trusting your wife was meant to be the best decision you ever made but when she cheated, you realized you were wrong. Should you do it again?

People often think that marriages can work just fine as long as there is enough love in them.

But, the truth is, love is just a part of it and those who solely rely on the power of love are doomed to fail.

That’s because they often forget the other foundations of a healthy and strong marriage, where trust is one of the most important bits.

I mean, what’s the point of love if one or both of you do not trust each other, right? What’s the point of staying in a marriage where feelings of being safe and secure are missing?

The Effects Of Infidelity On A Relationship’s Trust

People who cheat often have their own stories and reasons for why they did it. But, the thing is, no matter the cause, its effect on the marriage is still the same – extremely damaging.

Is it repairable? Yes, it is. But will it ever be the same? No, definitely not.

When trust has been broken, you can do everything to put it back together, but just like what they say, repairing trust will take forever. And it’s not even an exaggeration.

I’m even willing to say that there are more reasons NOT to stay rather than the opposite.

There’s insecurity, paranoia, anxiety, and all kinds of trust issues. Plus all the other negative emotions that you would possibly feel – devastation, loneliness, grief.

Well, it’s said that being cheated on would bring out the worst feelings in the world, and man is it true. Would you take the risk given the possibility that she might do it again?

So, Should You Trust Her?

Trusting your wife again might be a big risk, but it all comes down to how much risk you’re willing to take. 

Remember, the decision is entirely up to you. But, here’s what you need to bear in mind: trusting her again is going to feel like a bumpy and uncertain road. Can you drive through it?

Trusting her again would mean that you will have to overcome the trust issues and paranoia. And of course, the possibility that she might cheat on you again.

If you can see yourself overcoming all these risks, then perhaps you can trust her again. But, if you’re doubtful, which is fine and normal, then maybe the other way is best for you.

What You Can Do

Trusting again is hard, isn’t it? For that reason alone, I can safely say that there is nothing wrong with parting ways after the fact.

If you feel like this isn’t the road for you anymore, then you can always choose to do legal separation or file a divorce.

But of course, you may not be completely sold on that idea based on this article alone, so here are 5 reasons why divorce could be the way to go.

You can also try to mend and heal things with the help of therapy and marriage counseling.

If you and her actually commit to it, you two might be able to pull it off and survive the infidelity, together.

However, keep in mind that it won’t be easy. It will take a lot of time and effort.

Conclusion

Trusting an unfaithful wife again is and will always be an extremely hard task, since more things are going against it, it may feel like swimming against the current.

There will always be the possibility of unresolved trust issues and paranoias to deal with and it’s absolutely fine to walk away from your relationship if you don’t want to deal with it.

Alternatively, you’re certain that you can overcome all problems, then maybe, just maybe, you can really trust her again.

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