Can You Trust An Unfaithful Husband?

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Marriages are built on top of love and trust, so what happens when your husband is unfaithful to you? Can you still trust him?

This has always been a common misconception – that love conquers all. That everything is going to work out, that mistakes will be forgotten, as long as you love each other.

The problem is, we often forget the fact that love may be an important emotion, but strong relationships are truly built by several other factors, one of which is trust.

The thing is, trust is very fragile, and once it’s broken, it’s not easy to put its pieces back together.

Now, your husband has been unfaithful to you, and maybe you’re wondering whether you could trust him again or not.

Well, to be honest, all questions about infidelity are hard to answer, but let me help you weigh in your options.

Acknowledge What You Feel

Before anything else, you should know how important it is to acknowledge your feelings, especially the negative ones.

Yes, it’s easier to just ignore the painful emotions and live in denial, but that won’t solve anything. In the end, you’d only lose yourself.

But what happens if you start to face the reality and accept all the emotions caused by your husband’s infidelity? The heartbreak, the anger, and the desolation?

Everything will start to become clear – not only your mind but also your heart. The heaviness in your chest will gradually go away. You will then feel better.

And the best thing about it is you’ll then start to recognize what you believe is better for you, for your marriage, and your family.

Your decision won’t be clouded by “love”, “should-have-beens” or even the guilt and blame because you’re already seeing things as they are.

Should He Be Trusted?

Now, here’s the tough question – should you trust him again or should you go your own way?

If you took the first step, which is to acknowledge your feelings, you’ll know if trusting your husband again is what you really want.

As I’ve said, it’s impossible to trust someone the same way as before, and there’s certainly no easy way to put all the pieces perfectly back together.

The cracks will always be there and the trust will be more fragile than it used to be.

Trusting your unfaithful husband is ultimately up to you, but if you ever decide to take the risk and trust him again, you should know that it’s going to be a roller coaster.

Acknowledging your feelings and accepting your reality doesn’t necessarily mean that the negative emotions will automatically vanish. It’s never that easy.

There will always be moments where you’ll be reminded of the infidelity, and when this happens, will you be able to overcome the surge of negative emotions once again?

Will you be able to look at your husband and not think “is he cheating on me again?” or “will I be good enough this time?”

You see, at the end of the day, it’s your choice. But, if you choose to trust him again and make your marriage work, there shouldn’t be any room for trust issues and paranoia.

Here’s What You Should Do

If you feel like you can still trust him, then I’ve got good news and bad news.

The good news is that it’s possible to mend things.

However, the bad news is, as I said previously there shouldn’t be any room for trust issues or paranoia.

Your relationship is likely in a fragile state already, and you don’t need those kinds of emotions wearing it down any further.

So my advice is to make sure the affair is actually over. Why? Because many cheaters when found out will simply find better ways to be covert about it.

And finding out about another affair in the middle of the healing process can have disastrous consequences such as trust issues and infidelity trauma.

Not verifying these things could set you up for major headaches down the road.

So don’t just take your partner’s word for it, actually investigate it.

If you don’t know what signs of cheating you should look for, there’s an article with the most common yet proven signs and even ways of catching a cheating husband. You can read it here.

If you actually find that the affair is truly over, then and only then, you should move on to the actual healing process.

Conclusion

Marriages are not easy.

Always remember that love may be important, but you cannot love someone blindly and expect your marriage to magically work.

Love may be integral, but to keep your marriage strong and working, trust must always be present.

Hence, if your husband has been unfaithful to you and your trust has been shattered, you must decide on what you believe is best for you.

You could trust your husband again or not, the decision is entirely up to you. But, whatever your decision is, make sure that it’s what you really want so you don’t regret it in the end.