Can You Trust A Unfaithful Husband?

by Maria MagleoJanuary 10, 2022

Marriages are built on top of love and trust, so what happens when your husband is unfaithful to you? Can you still trust him?

This has always been a common misconception – that love conquers all. That everything is going to work out, that mistakes will be forgotten, as long as you love each other.

The problem is, we often forget the fact that love may be an important emotion, but strong relationships are truly built by several other factors, one of which is trust.

The thing is, trust is very fragile, and once it’s broken, it’s not easy to put its pieces back together.

Now, your husband has been unfaithful to you, and maybe you’re wondering whether you could trust him again or not.

Well, to be honest, all questions about infidelity are hard to answer, but let me help you weigh in your options.

Acknowledge What You Feel

Before anything else, you should know how important it is to acknowledge your feelings, especially the negative ones.

Yes, it’s easier to just ignore the painful emotions and live in denial, but that won’t solve anything. In the end, you’d only lose yourself.

But what happens if you start to face the reality and accept all the emotions caused by your husband’s infidelity? The heartbreak, the anger, and the desolation?

Everything will start to become clear – not only your mind but also your heart. The heaviness in your chest will gradually go away. You will then feel better.

And the best thing about it is you’ll then start to recognize what you believe is better for you, for your marriage, and your family.

Your decision won’t be clouded by “love”, “should-have-beens” or even the guilt and blame because you’re already seeing things as they are.

Should He Be Trusted?

Now, here’s the tough question – should you trust him again or should you go your own way?

If you took the first step, which is to acknowledge your feelings, you’ll know if trusting your husband again is what you really want.

As I’ve said, it’s impossible to trust someone the same way as before, and there’s certainly no easy way to put all the pieces perfectly back together.

The cracks will always be there and the trust will be more fragile than it used to.

Trusting your unfaithful husband is ultimately up to you, but if you ever decide to take the risk and trust him again, you should know that it’s going to be a roller coaster.

Acknowledging your feelings and accepting your reality doesn’t necessarily mean that the negative emotions will automatically vanish. It’s never that easy.

There will always be moments where you’ll be reminded of the infidelity, and when this happens, will you be able to overcome the surge of negative emotions once again?

Will you be able to look at your husband and not think “is he cheating on me again?” or “will I be good enough this time?”

You see, at the end of the day, it’s your choice. But, if you choose to trust him again and make your marriage work, there shouldn’t be any room for trust issues and paranoia.

What If You Can’t Do It Anymore?

By now, you’ve probably come to a decision.

If you have decided that trusting him again is no longer possible, then it’s okay. You don’t have to force yourself just because others want your marriage to work.

However, you must know that when it comes to marriages there are no in-betweens. You either commit to it, or you leave it. Simple as that.

So, to be blunt, if you don’t trust your husband anymore then you’re better off divorcing him.

The reason I say this is because having a fresh start simply beats living the rest of your days with the underlying paranoia that an affair brings to the table.

If this is what you want, but don’t know where to start, you can read more about it here.

And, What If You Can?

If you feel like you can still trust him, then I got good news and bad news.

The good news is that it’s possible to mend things.

The bad news is that It will take a long time, but with enough effort from you two and some therapy sessions, you might just make it.

Therapy will allow you to be productive and work on the relationship more efficiently. If you’re interested, you can read more about it here.

Of course, I know that this is a life-changing situation.

This is your life at stake, so choose wisely. Choose whatever you feel would make you happy not just today but also in the fullness of time.

Conclusion

Marriages are not easy.

Always remember that love may be important, but you cannot love someone blindly and expect your marriage to magically work.

Love may be integral, but to keep your marriage strong and working, trust must always be present.

Hence, if your husband has been unfaithful to you and your trust has been shattered, you must decide on what you believe is best for you.

You could trust your husband again or not, the decision is entirely up to you. But, whatever your decision is, make sure that it’s what you really want and you won’t regret it in the end.

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