Can You Trust A Unfaithful Husband?

by Maria MagleoJanuary 10, 2022

Marriages are built on top of love and trust, so what happens when your husband is unfaithful to you? Can you still trust him?

This has always been a common misconception – that love conquers all. That everything is going to work out, that mistakes will be forgotten, so long as you love each other.

The problem is, we often forget the fact that love may be an important emotion, but strong relationships are truly built by several other factors, and one of which is trust.

We usually take trust for granted because we never really know its importance until it’s shattered, right? 

The thing is, trust is very fragile, and once it’s broken, it’s not easy to put the pieces back together.

Now, your husband has been unfaithful to you, and maybe you’re wondering whether you could trust him again or not.

Well, to be honest, all questions about infidelity are hard to answer, but let me help you weigh in your options.

Acknowledge What You Feel

Before anything else, you should know how important it is to acknowledge your feelings, especially the negative ones.

Yes, it’s easier to just ignore the painful emotions and live in denial, but it wouldn’t solve anything. In the end, you would only lose yourself.

But what happens when you start to face the reality and accept all the emotions caused by your husband’s infidelity? The heartbreak, the anger, and the desolation?

Everything would start to become clear – not only your mind but also your heart. The heaviness in your chest would gradually become lighter. You would then feel better.

And the best thing about it is you would then start to recognize what you believe is better for you, for your marriage, and your family.

Your decision wouldn’t be clouded by “love” or the “should-have-beens” or the guilt and blame anymore because you are already seeing things as they are.

Should He Be Trusted?

Now, here’s the tough question: should you trust him again or should you go your own way?

If you took the first step, which is to acknowledge your feelings, you’ll know if trusting your husband again is what you really want.

As I’ve said, it is impossible to trust someone the same way as before, and there is certainly no easy way to put all the pieces perfectly back together.

The cracks will always be there and the trust would be even more fragile than it used to.

Trusting your unfaithful husband is ultimately up to you, but if you ever decide to take the risk and trust him again, you should know that it’s going to be a roller coaster ride.

Acknowledging your feelings and accepting your reality doesn’t necessarily mean that the negative emotions will vanish. It’s never that easy.

There would always be moments where you would be reminded of the infidelity, and when this happens, would you be able to overcome the surge of negative emotions once again?

Would you be able to look at your husband and not think “is he cheating on me again?” or “will I be good enough this time?”

You see, at the end of the day, it’s your choice. But, if you choose to trust him again and make your marriage work, there shouldn’t be room for any trust issues and paranoia.

What If You Can’t Do It Anymore?

By now, in regards to the question you were asking yourself, you’ve probably came to a decision.

If you have decided that trusting him again is no longer possible, then it’s okay. You don’t have to force yourself just because others want your marriage to work.

However, you must know that when it comes to marriages there are no in-betweens. You either commit to it, or you leave it. Simple as that.

So, to be blunt, if you don’t trust your husband anymore then you’re better off divorcing him.

Of course, this may sudden and shocking, however, there are plenty of reasons to do so. As a matter of fact, there’s more reasons to do so than otherwise.

If you’re interested, you can read more about these reasons here.

And, What If You Can?

If you feel like you can still trust him, then I got good news and bad news.

The good news is that it’s possible to mend things.

I can’t recommend therapy enough. With it, you two may be able to work on your relationship more efficiently. You can read more about it here.

The bad news is that It will take a long time, but with enough effort from you two and some therapy sessions, you might just make it.

Of course, I know that this is a life-changing situation, that is why I’m telling you this:

This is your life that is at stake, so choose wisely. Choose whatever you feel would make you happy not just today but also in the fullness of time.

Conclusion

Marriages are not easy.

Always remember that love may be important, but you cannot love someone blindly and expect your marriage to work.

Love may be integral, but to keep your marriage strong and working, trust must always be present.

Hence, if your husband has been unfaithful to you and your trust has been shattered, you must decide on what you believe is best for you.

You could trust your husband again or not, the decision is entirely up to you. But, whatever your decision is, make sure that it is what you really want and you won’t regret it in the end.

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