5 Ideas To Spice Things Up

by Maria MagleoAugust 31, 2022

If your relationship is lacking excitement lately, You can use the oldest trick in the book: Spice things up a bit!

It’s no secret that every relationship will have its share of boring moments, most especially if you and your partner (or spouse) have been together for a long time.

After years of being together, you might notice that the things you used to look forward to are now starting to feel lame, or the sex is somehow feeling like a chore. 

Not only that, but the relationship can suddenly feel like a tedious cycle of chores, passionless cuddles, and boring date nights. Yikes!

Although these feelings are normal, not exerting any effort to put back the fun and joy in your relationship can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and unhappiness.

5 Date Ideas To Liven Up Your Relationship

Every relationship will come to a point where it’ll have to be tweaked for it to function well again.

Sometimes, it’s just a phase that you both need to go through to strengthen your bond and keep the passion burning.

However, if you feel like your relationship is already deeply problematic and is on the verge of falling apart, you might have to work through it in other ways, like relationship coaching.

But if you feel like your relationship is just missing some fun and exciting times, then here are five ideas to make your dull dates full of thrill and adrenaline:

1. Be spontaneous

What makes a relationship boring is the fact that people tend to do the same things over and over again just because it’s “what the partner wants” or it’s what’s comfortable.

The thing is, relationships change because people change. And for your relationship to thrive, you and your partner must learn how to adapt to these changes.

If you’ve been together for years, you must take into consideration the possibility that what your partner wanted five years ago may not be the same anymore.

Well, there is nothing wrong with sticking to old habits and doing the same old routines, but if you want to spice things up in your relationship, you must be open to trying new things.

It makes it more exciting to have no idea what’s about to come next. Hence, if you can try to be a little spontaneous.

For example, if you and your partner are used to drinking wine and doing fine dining on birthdays, why don’t you surprise your partner with a ticket to their favorite band’s concert?

Or instead of going to bed right after dinner on a weekend, why don’t you spontaneously spare some time to do some movie nights and little late-night conversations?

You see, being spontaneous doesn’t have to be expensive or time-consuming.

You just have to turn your partner’s expectations into something a little unexpected.

2. Go sightseeing

Planning a trip or a vacation with your partner or spouse is a fun way to make your relationship stronger.

Even more so if you’ve been both busy running the household or doing your jobs that you haven’t had the time to relax and have fun together lately.

Go somewhere you haven’t been to and do things you haven’t tried before. Make it exciting by doing activities that can give you a little adrenaline rush.

Try bungee jumping, skydiving, or parasailing. And, if you want to add some kinks into your adventures, maybe you can try skinny dipping.

It may sound scary and maybe a little awkward, especially if you or your partner is not the daring type, but it can have some good effects on your relationship.

3. Play some games

If sex has somehow become uninteresting or unpleasurable, try playing truth or dare as a new way of foreplay.

Tease, flirt, and laugh while daring each other to be more hot and seductive. Or try role-playing as another way of bringing back the passion between you and your partner.

Other than that, you can also use real games as a way of strengthening your bond and making your relationship fun.

If you don’t want to go out on an actual date but you want to spend some quality time with your partner, you can play video games or card games while eating your favorite snacks.

You can also play sports or go to the gym together as a new way of dating.

It may be simple but it can surely make you laugh and have fun together even without having to go out on fancy dates and spending a lot of money.

4. Be competitive

If you feel like your usual routines and daily chores are becoming more and more stressful or dull, try bringing competition to the table and see how it can somehow become exciting.

Of course, if you’ve been together for a long time, you are both already used to doing things together as a team. This includes cooking, cleaning, washing, or doing the laundry.

These things aren’t always fun to do, especially if the chores you need to accomplish are already piling up, but you can use them to bring fun to your relationship. How so?

You can do a cooking showdown! Pick one meal you can both do and see who can cook it better. If you have kids, make them your judges. If you don’t, find other people.

Whoever loses will have to do the winner’s least favorite chore. 

If you’re out doing a road trip, see who can sing the radio song better. If you’re in the theater watching a new movie, see who can somehow guess the ending correctly.

You can both decide the consequences of the person who doesn’t win. Who knows, maybe you can also use it to spice things up in bed?

5. Make their dream date come true

This might be the hardest and cheesiest idea but it can guarantee a new perspective on your relationship.

Every person has a dream date that they surely want to experience at least once in their lives. Some might be complicated, but some are very simple and easy to do.

Maybe they just want to volunteer, to try rock climbing, or to do a DIY project at home but they couldn’t do any of this because of their busy schedule or they’re just too shy to ask.

The best way here is to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about the things that can make them feel happy and excited again in your relationship.

Ask them what they want to experience that you haven’t done before and if it’s attainable, by all means, do it. 

Aside from the impression that you are willing to exert an effort for them, you are also giving your partner new things to look forward to.

Final Thoughts

Relationships will always go through dull moments after years of being together. 

Unfortunately, knowing this truth doesn’t make it any easier to deal with the unpleasant changes.

It can be frightening, knowing that it may lead to an unhappy and unfulfilling relationship when not given much attention. 

But dull moments can be turned into fun and exciting adventures as long as you and your partner are willing to go with the flow, adapt to changes, and try new things.

Communicate with your partner and discuss the possible steps to take to keep the passion burning in your relationship. You might also learn new things about your partner.

And, remember, by keeping your relationship fun and exciting, you are not only strengthening your partnership but your friendship as well.

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